My Husband Betty: Love, Sex, and Life with a Crossdresser

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Seal Press, 2003 - Family & Relationships - 285 pages
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Author Helen Boyd is a happily married woman whose husband enjoys sharing her wardrobe—and she has written the first book on transgendered men to focus on their relationships and their female partners. Traditionally known as cross-dressers, transvestites, or drag queens, men like Helen’s husband are diverse and don’t always conform to stereotype. Many of the older transvestites are socially conservative, deeply closeted, and devout churchgoers. Helen addresses every imaginable question concerning the reasons for behavior that still baffles not only “mental health professionals” but the practitioners themselves; the taxonomy of the transgendered and the distinct but overlapping societies of each group; coming out; bisexuality; and homophobia. The book features interviews with some very interesting people, all of whom struggle and love: dominatrix and her cross-dressing husband; a crossdressing Reiki master and his son; a woman who after dating one cross-dresser wanted to date others and met—and fell in love with—a transsexual instead; a woman whose husband promised her he was only a cross-dresser and later realized that he was transsexual. This is a book about relationships that will engage the reader, and Helen’s narrative is a powerful lens with which to examine our own notions of gender and equality.
  

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However, I applaud her efforts for writing this book. - Goodreads
Solid research reporting, but somewhat disjointed. - Goodreads
The writer writes from the heart in this book. - Goodreads

Review: My Husband Betty: Love, Sex, and Life with a Crossdresser

User Review  - Denise Kawaii - Goodreads

Wonderful look at understanding and loving your partner for who they are (and getting the same love and understanding in return). Highly recommend it to anyone who is looking for answers to questions around gender roles and related relationship issues. Read full review

Review: My Husband Betty: Love, Sex, and Life with a Crossdresser

User Review  - Alice - Goodreads

HB really takes for granted her white privileged straight girl lifestyle. She is constantly making generalizations based on her small bubble about all people who are not gender normative. It's so ... Read full review

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Contents

INTRODUCTION
1
CROSSDRESSED LIVES
20
CROSSDRESSERS WIVES GIRLFRIENDS AND PARTNERS
49
RELATIONSHIPS
84
SLIPPERY SLOPE?
115
SEX AND SENSIBILITY
149
EPISCENE
186
GENDERED POLITICS
214
A FEW WORDS FROM BETTY
242
GLOSSARY
244
THE CAST OF CHARACTERS
256
ANNOTATED BIBLIOGRAPHY
265
RESOURCES
275
SWAN SONG
284
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About the author (2003)

Helen Boyd is the author of My Husband Betty, which was a finalist for a Lambda Literary Award. Her blog, (en)gender, is a journal of gender and trans topics that is widely read by people interested in queer, trans, and gender issues and politics. She lives with her partner, Betty, in Brooklyn, NY.

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