My Husband Betty: Love, Sex, and Life with a Crossdresser

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Seal Press, 2003 - Family & Relationships - 285 pages
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Author Helen Boyd is a happily married woman whose husband enjoys sharing her wardrobe—and she has written the first book on transgendered men to focus on their relationships and their female partners. Traditionally known as cross-dressers, transvestites, or drag queens, men like Helen’s husband are diverse and don’t always conform to stereotype. Many of the older transvestites are socially conservative, deeply closeted, and devout churchgoers. Helen addresses every imaginable question concerning the reasons for behavior that still baffles not only “mental health professionals” but the practitioners themselves; the taxonomy of the transgendered and the distinct but overlapping societies of each group; coming out; bisexuality; and homophobia. The book features interviews with some very interesting people, all of whom struggle and love: dominatrix and her cross-dressing husband; a crossdressing Reiki master and his son; a woman who after dating one cross-dresser wanted to date others and met—and fell in love with—a transsexual instead; a woman whose husband promised her he was only a cross-dresser and later realized that he was transsexual. This is a book about relationships that will engage the reader, and Helen’s narrative is a powerful lens with which to examine our own notions of gender and equality.
  

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Introduction: who we are, why this book -- Ch. 2. - Goodreads

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from the library get again in 2014 Contents: Ch. 1. Introduction: who we are, why this book -- Ch. 2. Crossdressed Lives: why they do it, who they are, why they can't stop -- Ch. 3. Crossdressers ... Read full review

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I really had to slog through this one. Its not bad, just one of those books best read slow to really absorb what is being said. Read full review

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Contents

INTRODUCTION
1
CROSSDRESSED LIVES
20
CROSSDRESSERS WIVES GIRLFRIENDS AND PARTNERS
49
RELATIONSHIPS
84
SLIPPERY SLOPE?
115
SEX AND SENSIBILITY
149
EPISCENE
186
GENDERED POLITICS
214
A FEW WORDS FROM BETTY
242
GLOSSARY
244
THE CAST OF CHARACTERS
256
ANNOTATED BIBLIOGRAPHY
265
RESOURCES
275
SWAN SONG
284
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About the author (2003)

Helen Boyd is the author of My Husband Betty, which was a finalist for a Lambda Literary Award. Her blog, (en)gender, is a journal of gender and trans topics that is widely read by people interested in queer, trans, and gender issues and politics. She lives with her partner, Betty, in Brooklyn, NY.

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