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My Husband Betty:

Love, Sex, and Life With a Crossdresser
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Seal Press, 2003 - Social Science - 285 pages
Author Helen Boyd is a happily married woman whose husband enjoys sharing her wardrobe—and she has written the first book on transgendered men to focus on their relationships and their female partners. Traditionally known as cross-dressers, transvestites, or drag queens, men like Helen’s husband are diverse and don’t always conform to stereotype. Many of the older transvestites are socially conservative, deeply closeted, and devout churchgoers. Helen addresses every imaginable question concerning the reasons for behavior that still baffles not only “mental health professionals” but the practitioners themselves; the taxonomy of the transgendered and the distinct but overlapping societies of each group; coming out; bisexuality; and homophobia. The book features interviews with some very interesting people, all of whom struggle and love: dominatrix and her cross-dressing husband; a crossdressing Reiki master and his son; a woman who after dating one cross-dresser wanted to date others and met—and fell in love with—a transsexual instead; a woman whose husband promised her he was only a cross-dresser and later realized that he was transsexual. This is a book about relationships that will engage the reader, and Helen’s narrative is a powerful lens with which to examine our own notions of gender and equality.
  

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The writer writes from the heart in this book. - Goodreads

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User Review  - Alice - Goodreads

HB really takes for granted her white privileged straight girl lifestyle. She is constantly making generalizations based on her small bubble about all people who are not gender normative. It's so ... Read full review

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User Review  - Ingrid Biery - Goodreads

Very informative about cross-dressing/transvestism. Funny how I have never expected other types of people to be all the same, but I'd bought into the idea that there was one way to describe all cross-dressers. Read full review

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Selected pages

Contents

INTRODUCTION
1
CROSSDRESSED LIVES
20
CROSSDRESSERS WIVES GIRLFRIENDS AND PARTNERS
49
RELATIONSHIPS
84
SLIPPERY SLOPE?
115
SEX AND SENSIBILITY
149
EPISCENE
186
GENDERED POLITICS
214
A FEW WORDS FROM BETTY
242
GLOSSARY
244
THE CAST OF CHARACTERS
256
ANNOTATED BIBLIOGRAPHY
265
RESOURCES
275
SWAN SONG
284
Copyright

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Lambda Literary Foundation :: lambdaliterary.org
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My Husband Betty
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My Husband Betty
My Husband Betty is an in depth exploration of heterosexual relationships with cross dressers and transvestites. Written by the wife of one it makes ...
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An Interview With Helen Boyd, Author of My Husband Betty ...
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en|Gender » About My Husband Betty
About My Husband Betty. MHB cover. My Husband Betty by Helen Boyd Published by Thunder’s Mouth Press. Now in its sixth printing, My Husband Betty was a ...
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March. 4. 2006. Excerpts · Reviews · Buy My Husband Betty (signed copies available). mhb. My Husband Betty Published by Thunder’s Mouth Press, 2003 ...
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Damian mcnicholl's Blog: Banishing cockroaches
A blog about an Irishman-cum-author living in America sort of thing, and there'll also be frequent posts about Northern Ireland where I was born and ...
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About the author (2003)

Helen Boyd is the author of My Husband Betty, which was a finalist for a Lambda Literary Award. Her blog, (en)gender, is a journal of gender and trans topics that is widely read by people interested in queer, trans, and gender issues and politics. She lives with her partner, Betty, in Brooklyn, NY.

Bibliographic information

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TitleMy Husband Betty: Love, Sex, and Life With a Crossdresser
AuthorHelen Boyd
Editionillustrated, reprint
PublisherSeal Press, 2003
ISBN1560255153, 9781560255154
Length285 pages
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Family & Relationships / Alternative Family
Family & Relationships / Love & Romance
Social Science / Gender Studies
  
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