The Apology Impulse: How the Business World Ruined Sorry and Why We Can’t Stop Saying It

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Kogan Page Publishers, Oct 3, 2019 - Business & Economics - 360 pages


WINNER:
American Book Fest Best Book Award 2020 - Communications/Public Relations
WINNER: NYC Big Book Award 2020 - Marketing and Public Relations

Saying sorry is in crisis. On one hand there are anxious PR aficionados and social media teams dishing out apologies with alarming frequency. On the other there are people and organizations who have done truly terrible things issuing much-delayed statements of mild regret.

We have become addicted to apologies but immune from saying sorry.

In January 2018 there were 35 public apologies from high-profile organizations and individuals. That's more than one per day. Between them, in 2017, the likes of Facebook, Mercedes Benz and United Airlines issued over 2,000 words of apologies for their transgressions. Alarmingly, the word 'sorry' didn't appear once.

This perfectly timed book examines the psychology, motivations and even the economic rationale of giving an apology in the age of outrage culture and on-demand contrition. It reveals the tricks and techniques we all use to evade, reframe and divert from what we did and demonstrates how professionals do it best. Providing lessons for businesses and organizations, you'll find out how to give meaningful apologies and know when to say sorry, or not say it at all.

The Apology Impulse is the perfect playbook for anyone - from social media executive through to online influencers and CEOs - who apologise way too much and say sorry far too infrequently.

 

Contents

1 Introduction
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2 Whos been apologizing and what are they sorry about?
9
3 The six reasons organizations apologize and the one reason they wont
21
Why sorry means different things to different industries
41
5 The definitive modern apology and why everyone ignored it
47
Are we all apologizing too much?
55
Runway excursion incidents reaccommodating passengers and overpressurization
69
8 Schrödingers apology grammatical deflections and evasions
79
Performative crisis management and teaching consumers to expect too much
145
15 Optics anxiety and apologizing for how things look
165
Why frontline staff pay the price
179
Why an apology could cost 5 billion
187
How organizations profit from their rivals apologies
199
How a supermarket and an MP were defrauded of sorry
211
Lessons from car makers presidents and freelance apologizers
223
Discover the unexpected benefits of not saying sorry
235

9 Crisis fatigue and the case for rationing apologies
91
How CEOs sabotage their own apologies
105
Why it took three of the worlds biggest brands three attempts to say sorry
111
Fostering resilience and identifying customer intent
123
What to say when youve killed a puppy and how to fake humility
135
Why the UKs nicest brand refused to say sorry
247
How to manage the apology impulse and deliver meaningful responses
259
Notes
273
Index
329
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About the author (2019)

Sir Cary Cooper, CBE, is the 50th Anniversary Professor of Organizational Psychology and Health at the ALLIANCE Manchester Business School. He holds the office of president of the CIPD, the British Academy of Management, RELATE and Institute of Welfare.

Sean O'Meara
is the founder and MD of Essential Content, a specialist content and PR agency. He's worked with leading organizations including The Co-Op Bank and the BBC.

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