The High-Conflict Couple: Dialectical Behavior Therapy Guide to Finding Peace, Intimacy
You hear and read a lot about ways to improve your relationship. But if you've tried these without much success, you're not alone. Many highly reactive couples-pairs that are quick to argue, anger, and blame-need more than just the run-of-the-mill relationship advice to solve their problems in love. When destructive emotions are at the heart of problems in your relationship, no amount of effective communication or intimacy building will fix what ails it. If you're part of a 'high-conflict' couple, you need to get control of your emotions first, to stop making things worse, and only then work on building a better relationship. The High-Conflict Couple adapts the powerful techniques of dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) into skills you can use to tame out-of-control emotions that flare up in your relationship. Using mindfulness and distress tolerance techniques, you'll learn how to deescalate angry situations before they have a chance to explode into destructive fights. Other approaches will help you disclose your fears, longings, and other vulnerabilities to your partner and validate his or her experiences in return. You'll discover ways to manage problems with negotiation, not conflict, and to find true acceptance and closeness with the person you love the most.
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Understanding Emotion in Relationships
Accepting Yourself and Your Partner
How to Stop Making Things Worse
Being Together When You Are Together
Reactivating Your Relationship
Validating Responses What to Validate and Why
Back to the Couple TwoStep
What Is Valid and How Is It Valid?
Validating Responses How to Validate Your Partner
Enjoying Time Apart and Sharing Your Experiences
Doing Things for Each Other Without Strings Attached
Before You Open Your Mouth
Know What You Want and Feel or That You Dont Know
What Is Inaccurate Expression?
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