The Book of Jewish Values: A Day-by-Day Guide to Ethical Living

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Harmony/Rodale, Feb 22, 2000 - Religion - 544 pages
Rabbi Joseph Telushkin combed the Bible, the Talmud, and the whole spectrum of Judaism's sacred writings to give us a manual on how to lead a decent, kind, and honest life in a morally complicated world.

"An absolutely superb book: the most practical, most comprehensive guide to Jewish values I know." —Rabbi Harold Kushner, author of When Bad Things Happen to Good People

Telushkin speaks to the major ethical issues of our time, issues that have, of course, been around since the beginning. He offers one or two pages a day of pithy, wise, and easily accessible teachings designed to be put into immediate practice. The range of the book is as broad as life itself:

• The first trait to seek in a spouse (Day 17)
• When, if ever, lying is permitted (Days 71-73)
• Why acting cheerfully is a requirement, not a choice (Day 39)
• What children don't owe their parents (Day 128)
• Whether Jews should donate their organs (Day 290)
• An effective but expensive technique for curbing your anger (Day 156)
• How to raise truthful children (Day 298)
• What purchases are always forbidden (Day 3)

In addition, Telushkin raises issues with ethical implications that may surprise you, such as the need to tip those whom you don't see (Day 109), the right thing to do when you hear an ambulance siren (Day 1), and why wasting time is a sin (Day 15). Whether he is telling us what Jewish tradition has to say about insider trading or about the relationship between employers and employees, he provides fresh inspiration and clear guidance for every day of our lives.
 

Contents

ACKNOWLEDGMENTS
1
Shabbat
11
When a Person Says Im Hungry
20
Dont Waste Time
30
WEEK
32
WEEK 4
40
WEEK
46
Dont Steal Another Persons Mind
51
Beyond the Letter of the Law
292
30
293
The Dust of Forbidden Speech
300
31
301
Bar Mitzvahs and Bat Mitzvahs and the Need for a New Kind of Hero
302
Start Your Day with Gratitude
303
If You Have a Tendency to Complain About Others
305
Respect Your Familys Privacy
306

10
55
WEEK 6
60
What Is Lashon Hara?
73
11
75
Tzedaka Is More Than Charity
84
The Torah on the Blind and the Deaf
86
Standing Up for Justice
87
Dont Buy Products Produced by Exploited Workers
88
Everybody Deserves a Tenk You
89
The Need for Moral Imagination
90
Shabbat
91
WEEK 10
92
One Who Learns from His Companion a Single Chapter
99
WEEK 11
100
Judaism and White Lies
102
13
103
Lies Told for Reasons of Humility Privacy and Not to Harm Another
104
Declaring a Complaining Fast
106
The Most Unusual of Blessings
107
Treating People Who Are Retarded with Respect
109
Shabbat
110
WEEK 12
111
15
117
Dont Charge Interest
120
When You Suspect Child Abuse
122
20
124
Dont Make People Tell You Lies
127
He Who Saves a Single Life It Is as If He Saved an Entire World
128
Untamed Anger and the Death Of Love
130
Dont Make Unrealistic Demands of People
131
A Jewish View of Hunting
133
Feed Your Animals Before Yourself
135
Dont Spread Negative but Irrelevant Information About Someone You Dislike
136
Dont Humiliate an Enemy
137
Shabbat
138
WEEK 15
139
Pray for Someone Else Today
148
WEEK 16
149
Acknowledge Your Sin and Accept Responsibility
151
Ask for Forgiveness Even When Youre Not Fully in the Wrong
152
Tipping Even Those Whose Faces You Dont See
153
What If You Could Read Your Obituary Today?
154
The Infinite Ways of Doing Good
157
You Shall Not Place a Stumbling Block
169
Paying a Laborers Wages Promptly
179
WEEK 19
180
What You Dont Owe Your Parents
182
WEEK 18
184
Two Pieces of Paper
185
Read and Listen to Points of View with Which You Disagree
186
Its Not Only What You Do for Your Parents That Counts Its Your Attitude
188
Shabbat
189
WEEK 20
190
Dont Threaten Your Children with Physical Punishment
192
Enter a Mourners Home with Silence
193
Dont Take My Grief from Me
195
An Unforgivable Sin
197
When Its Good to Be a Fool
200
WEEK 21
201
Schedule Kindness into Your Day
203
Dont Be a Pious Fool
204
Dont Serve Liquor with an Overly Generous Hand
206
26
207
Dont Embarrass Your Guest Dont Embarrass Your Children
208
Shabbat
209
WEEK 22
210
How You Can Help
213
How to Change Negative Behavior
215
The Unending Obligation to Be Kind
217
Whats Hateful Unto You
218
Not Everything That Is Thought Should Be Said
219
Shabbat
220
WEEK 23
221
An Expensive Technique for Overcoming Anger
222
Putting Things into Perspective
224
Treating Your Employees with Respect
229
WEEK 24
230
How Fear of God Can Make You a Better Person 2
231
Express Gratitude to Your Parents
233
When Your Mate and Your Parents Are in Conflict
234
From a Child Is Beautiful Anything
236
This Is the Most Delicious Muffin I Have Ever Tasted
237
Shabbat
239
WEEK 25
240
Steady Giving
249
WEEK 26
250
Should a Doctor or a Close Family Member Tell the Truth to a Person Who Is Dying?
252
27
253
Is Your Work Sacred?
255
Is Abortion Murder? Should a Womans Right to Abortion Be Absolute?
257
Should a Woman Have the Right to Do What She Wants with Her Body?
260
Rabbi Aryeh Levine and the Mitzvah to Visit the Sick
263
WEEK 27
264
Teach Your Child Torah
266
Teach Your Child the Value of Human Life
268
A Pragmatic Reason for Forgiving Others
270
Help Someone to Find a Spouse Help Someone to Find Work
272
WEEK 28
273
An Employer Must Know How His Employees Live
274
Confession and Your Neighbors Soul
275
How Can One Repent Who Has Committed the Ultimate and Unforgivable Sin?
277
When a Jew Acts Dishonestly Toward a NonJew
278
One Boss in a Million
281
29
282
Three Traits That Reveal Your Character
285
Until the Day of Ones Death
286
When the Old Become Frail
288
What Does a Good Guest Say?
307
Shabbat
308
Question to Ask Yourself Before You Criticize Another
309
Knowing When to Step Aside
311
When Youve Judged Another Unfairly
313
Therefore Was Man Created Singly
315
If Someone Wishes to Kill You Get Up Early and Kill Him First
317
33
319
Be Conscious of the Goodness and Sweetness in Others
320
WEEK 33
321
When Its Right to Be Early
322
His Mercy Is Upon All His Works
329
The Power of Goodness
331
Teach Your Child a Profession
333
Teach Your Child That What Matters Most to God Is Goodness
339
WEEK 35
340
Dont Pretend to Virtues You Dont Have
341
What Is the Neighbors Responsibility?
343
The Surprising Wording of the Biblical Commandment
345
If Parents Become Senile
349
Are You in an Abusive Relationship?
351
Dont Be an Elitist
352
Dont Encourage Your Children to Date Wealthy People
354
Marriage Is Also Supposed to Be Fun
356
Shabbat
357
The Painful Challenging Question Parents Must Ask Children
358
Be Generous with Power
359
When Silence Is Golden
361
Learn Even from Those with Whom You Disagree
362
Revenge and the Command to Love Your Neighbor
363
Who Is a Hero? A Jewish Perspective
365
Shabbat
366
WEEK 38
367
When an Accident Is No Accident
368
Dont Be a Mitzvah Hero at Someone Elses Expense
374
WEEK 39
375
Maimonides Art Buchwald and the Importance of Every Deed
376
Your Obligation
378
A Nightly Prayer Before Going to Sleep
380
Dont Let Your Child Humiliate Another Child
382
What the Fifth Commandment Demands of Parents
384
WEEK 40
385
On Not Embarrassing the Recipient
386
Is There Someone Youre Ignoring Whom You Should Ask for Forgiveness?
388
Dont Forgive on Other Peoples Behalf
394
When There Is No Shalom Bayit in Your Bayit
397
When Jewish Law Permits a Person to Be Publicly Shamed
398
The Limits of Gods Forgiveness
400
Its Not Enough to Be Nice Timing Also Matters
401
How to Avoid Giving in to Temptation
402
The Final Words a Jew Should Speak
403
CONTENTS
404
Should a Jew Donate His Organs?
405
Listen Really Listen
407
How Not to Teach Torah
410
WEEK 43
411
Dont Be a Racist
412
Never Practice Ingratitude
413
Raising Truthful Children
414
Empathy Is Not Natural
416
Express Your Gratitude to the People Nearest to You Now
419
WEEK 44
420
When Anonymous Giving Is Important and When It Is Not
421
When Silence Is Criminal
422
If You Learn That Someone Is Intending to Hurt Another
423
You Are Not as Good as You Think You Are and the World Is Not as Bad as You Think It Is
424
When Pious Words Are Irreligious
426
Shabbat
427
Is Your Blood Redder?
429
Should There Be a Limit to Parental Love?
434
A Time for Silence
435
When Praising Someone Is the Wrong Thing to Do
436
You and Your Ex
442
WEEK 47
443
Dont Get Used to Other Peoples Suffering
445
Whats Wrong with Your Life? Whats Right?
446
Shiva the Final Act of Gratitude
447
Repentance Is GoodOverrepentance Is Not
451
WEEK 48
452
Watch Your Compliments
453
When Legal Doesnt Equal Moral
454
Using Your Evil Urge to Do Good
455
Let Your Word Not Your Oath Be Your Bond
457
Never Insult Another
460
WEEK 49
461
The Four Guidelines of the Chaffetz Chayyim
462
Telling Your Children Im Sorry
470
WEEK 50
471
Study Judaism Fifteen Minutes a Day Starting Now
478
Random Acts of Kindness
479
One Who Calls Another Person by a Cruel Nickname
480
WEEK 51
481
A Husbands Obligations to His Wife
482
Dont Insult Your Spouse
483
Jews Shouldnt Be Cheap Jewish Funerals Should Be
490
WEEK 52
491
Would Jewish Ethics Permit a Jew to Own a Gun Store?
492
Wronging with Words
493
The Telephone as an Instrument for Good
495
Torah Study and the Importance of Review
497
A Week of Kindness a Week of Gemilut Chesed
498
Shabbat
500
TOPICAL INDEX
502
GLOSSARY OF HEBREW TEXTS CITED
504
BIBLIOGRAPHY
506
INDEX
513
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Rabbi Joseph Telushkin, spiritual leader and scholar, is the author of Jewish Literacy, the most widely read book on Judaism of the past two decades. Another of his books, Words That Hurt, Words That Heal, was the motivating force behind Senators Joseph Lieberman and Connie Mack's 1996 Senate Resolution #151 to establish a "National Speak No Evil Day" throughout the United States. Rabbi Telushkin serves as a senior associate of CLAL, the National Jewish Center for Learning and Leadership, and is the rabbi of the Los Angeles-based Synagogue for the Performing Arts. He lives with his family in New York City and lectures regularly throughout the United States.

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