Silently Seduced: When Parents Make Their Children Partners

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Health Communications, Inc., 2011 - Family & Relationships - 192 pages

In this revised and updated 20th anniversary edition of his groundbreaking book, Dr. Kenneth Adams, a leading expert on covert incest, sex addiction, and childhood trauma, offers tools for identifying and healing from covert incestuous relationships that affect adult relationships and lives. He explains how 'feeling close' with a parent is not always the source of comfort the phrase suggests, especially when that child is cheated out of a childhood by being a parent's surrogate partner. Dr. Adams includes a new Q&A section that directly addresses issues including:

• How can this be incestuous when there is no physical sexual contact?
• Why is sexual addiction so common with covert incest survivors?
• Why is it so hard for covert incest survivors to commit to romantic relationships?
• If my partner is a covert incest survivor, how can I help?
• Can I pass covert incest on to my children?

Through new findings and expanded discussions on 'engulfment,' 'excessive guilt,' 'loyalty,' and 'narcissism,' and others, Silently Seduced offers a framework to understand covert incest and its effect on sexuality, intimacy, and relationships to facilitate the process of recovery.

 

Selected pages

Contents

The Man of the House
32
Daddys Little Girl
59
When Sex Becomes a Hiding Place
85
The Struggle to Commit
109
Moving Forward
134
Frequently Asked Questions
151
Acknowledgments
165
Index
172
Copyright

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Kenneth M. Adams
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Kenneth M. Adams
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About the author (2011)

Kenneth M. Adams, Ph.D., is a licensed psychologist and the clinical director of Kenneth M. Adams and Associates in suburban Detroit, Michigan. In addition to maintaining an active clinical practice, Dr. Adams is a national lecturer, workshop leader, and consultant in the areas of childhood abuse, dysfunctional family systems, and sex addiction. He is a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT), a CSAT supervisor, and a CSAT training facilitator as well as an Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) practitioner. A member of the American Psychological Association, Michigan Psychological Association, Society for the Advancement of Sexual Health (SASH), and International Institute for Trauma and Addiction Professionals (IITAP), Dr. Adams is also an advisory board member to SASH and IITAP, and an editorial board member of Sexual Addiction & Compulsivity: The Journal of Treatment and Prevention. Dr. Adams, along with coauthor Dan Robinson, received the 2001 Reader's Choice Award for "Shame Reduction, Affect Regulation and Sexual Boundary Development: Essential Building Blocks in Sex Addiction Treatment," the article voted by subscribers of Sexual Addiction and Compulsivity: The Journal of Treatment and Prevention as the Article of the Year. He also received the 2011 Carnes Award for outstanding work and research in the field of sex addiction. In 2010, Dr. Adams was part of a focus group set up to advise the Office of the Director of National Intelligence on developing criteria for security clearances for federal employees. He specifically advised on matters related to sex addiction and personality disorders. Dr. Adams is the coeditor, with Dr. Patrick Carnes, of Clinical Management of Sex Addiction and the author of When He's Married to Mom. He does regular speaking engagements and media appearances, including national and local television and radio. For more information, visit www.drkenadams.com.

Bibliographic information

TitleSilently Seduced: When Parents Make Their Children Partners
AuthorKenneth M. Adams
Editionrevised
PublisherHealth Communications, Inc., 2011
ISBN0757315879, 9780757315879
Length192 pages
Subjects ›  › 

Family & Relationships / Abuse / Child Abuse
Family & Relationships / Abuse / General
Family & Relationships / General
Self-Help / Abuse
Self-Help / Codependency
  
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