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which they commended as a quality quite as becoming rrt> men as in women. I took the liberty to fay, it might be as beautiful in our behaviour as in theirs, yet it could not be said, it was as successful in life; for as it was the only recommendation in them, so it was the greatest obstacle to us both in Love and Business. A Gentleman* present was of my mind, and said, that we must describethe difference between the Modesty of women and that of men, or we should be confounded in our reasoningsupon it; for this virtue is to be regarded with respect toour different ways of life. The Woman's province is tobe careful in her œconomy, and chaste in he* affections r The Man's to be active in the improvement of his fortune, and ready to undertake whatever is consistent with? his reputation for that end. Modesty therefore in -» woman has a certain agreeable fear in all (he enters upon ; and in men it is composed of a right judgment off ■what is proper for them to attempt. From hence it isr that a discreet man is always a modest ons. It is to be: noted, that Modesty in a man is never to be allowed asa good quality, but a weakness, if it suppresses his virtue, and hides it from the world, when he has at thefame time a mind to exert himself. A French autho* lays very justly, that Modesty is to the ether virtues in ai man, what shade in a picture is to the parts of the thing; represented. It makes all the other beauties conspicaous, which would otherwise be but a wild heap of colours. This shade in our actions must therefore be veryr justly applied; for if there be too much, it hides outr good qualities, instead of shewing them to advantage.

Nestor in Athens was an unhappy instance ef this* truth; for he was not only in his profession the greatest} man of that age, but had given more proofs of it than> any other man ever did ; yet for want of that natural! freedom and audacity which is necessary in commerce; with men, his personal modesty overthrew all. his public actions. Nejior was in those days a skilful Architects, and in a manner the inventor of the use of mechanic powers; which he brought to so great perfection, that he knew to an atom what foundation would bear such a; superstructure: And they record of him, that he was soprodigiously exact, that for the experiment's fake,, heB-s * built builf an edifice of great beauty, and seeming strength; but contrived so as to bear only its own weight, and not to admit the addition of the least particle. This building was beheld with much admiration by all the Virtuosi, of that time; but fell down with no other pressure, but the fettling of a Wren upon the top of it. Yet Nejlor's modesty was such, that his art and skill were soon disregarded, for want of that manner with which men of the world support and assert the merit of their own performances. Soon after this instance of his art, Alberts was, by the treachery of its enemies, burned to the to the persons before whom he is. This makes Varillus truly amiable, and all his attempts successful; for, as bad as the world is thought to be by those who are perhaps unskilled in it, want of success in our actions is generally owing to want of judgment in what we ought to attempt, or a rustic Modesty, which will not give us leave to undertake what we ought. But how unfortunate this diffident temper is to those who are poflefsed with it, may be best seen in the success of such as are wholly unacquainted with it.

fround. This gave Nefier the greatest occasion that ever uilder had to render his name immortal, and his person venerable: For all the new city rose according to his disposition, and all the monuments of the glories and distresses of that people were erected by that sole artist: Kay, all their temples, as well as houses, were the effects of his study and labour; insomuch that it was said by an old {age, Sure, Kejior will now be famous; for the habitations of Gods, aswellasmen, are built by his contrivance. But this bashful quality still put a damp upon, his great knowledge, which has as fatal an effect; upon men's reputations as poverty; for as it was said,, "the poor man saved the city, and the poor man's la"bour was forgot;" so here we find, the modest man built the city, and the modest man's Ikill was unknown.

Thu» we fee every man is the maker of his own fortune; and what is very odd to consider, he must in some measure be the trumpet of his fame: Not that men are to be tolerated who directly praise themselves; but they are to be endued with a sort of defensive eloquence, by which they shall be always capable of expressing the rules and arts by which they govern themselves.

Varillus was the man ofalll have read of the happiest an the true possession of this quality of Modesty. My Author fays of him, Modesty in Varillus is really a virtue j for it is a voluntary quality, and the effect of good fense. He is naturally bold and enterprising; but so justly discreet, that he never acts or speaks any thing, but those who. behold him know he has forborn much saore than he has performed, or uttered, out of deference

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We have one peculiar elegance in our language above all others,, which is conspicuous in the term Fellow. This word added to any of our Adjectives extremely varies, or quite alters, the fense of that with which it is joined. Thus though a modest man is the most unfortunate of 'aH men( yet a modest fellow is as superlatively happy. A modest fellow is a ready creature, who with great humility, and as great forwardness, visits his patrons' at all hours, and meets them in all places, and has so moderate an opinion of himself, that he makes his> court at large. If you will not give him a great employment, he will be glad of a little one. He»has so» great a deference for his benefactor's judgment, that ashe thinks himself sit for any thing he can get, so he is above nothing which is offered. He is like the young; Bachelor of Arts, who came to town recommended to a Chaplain's place; but none being vacant, modestly accepted that of a postillion.

We have very many conspicuous persons of this undertaking, yet modest, turn: I have a grr.ndson who isvery, happy in this quality: I sent him in the time of thelast peace into France. As soon as he landed at Calais* he sent me an exact account of the nature of the people, and the policies of the King, of France. I got him since chosen a member of a Corporation: The modest creature, as soon as he came into The common council',, told a Senior Burgess, he was perfectly out of the orders of their house. In other circumstances, he is so thoroughly modest a fellow, that he seems to pretend only to things^ he understands. He is a citizen only at Court, aiui mithe city a Courtier. In a word, to speak the characteristical difference between a modest man and a modest "' B. 6- fellow? fellow;- the modest man is in doubt in all his actions; a modest fellow never has a doubt from his cradle to his grave.

N° 53. Thursday, August rr, 1709.

White's Chocolate-house, August ro.

The Civil Hulband.

TH E fate and character of the inconstant Ofmyn is a just excuse for the little notice taken, by hisvvidow, of his departure out of this liie> which was equally troublesome to Elmira, his faithful spouse, and to himself. That life passed between them after this, manner, is the reason the town has just now received a Lady with all that gaiety, after having been a relict but three months,, which other women hardly assume under fiften after such a disaster. Elmira is the daughter of a rich and worthy citizen, who gave her to Ofmyn with a; portion which might have obtained her an alliance with our noblest houses,, and fixed her in the eye of the world* where her story had not been now to be related': For her good qualitieshad made her the object of universal esteem among the polite part of mankind, from whom she has, been banished and immured until the death of her goaler. It is now full f.fteen years since that beauteous lady was given into the hands of the happy Ofmyn, who, in the fense of all the world, received at that time a present more valuable than the possession of both the Indies. She was then in her early bloom, with an understanding and discretion very little inferior to the most experienced matrons. She was not beholden to the charms of her Sex, that her company was preferable to arty Ofmyncould meet with abroad; for were all she said considered, without regard to her being a woman, it might stand, the examination of. the severest judges. She had all the

beauty. beauty of her own Sex, with all the conversation-accomplishments of ours. But Osmyn very soon grew surfeited with the charms of her.person by possession, and of her mind by want of taste; for he was one of that loose fort of men, who have but one reason for setting any value upon the fair Sex; who consider even brides but as new women, and consequently neglect them when* they ceaseto be such. AU the merit of Elmira could not prevent her becoming a mere wife within few months after her Buptials ; and Osmyn had so little relish for her conversation, that he complained of the advantages of it. My spouse, said he to one of his companions, is so very discreet, so good, so virtuous, and I know not what, that I think her person is rather the object of esteem than of love; and there is such a thing as a merit* which cause* lather distance than passion. But there being no Medium in the state of matrimony, their life began to take the usual gradations to become the most irksome of all Beings. They grew in the first place very complaisant ;. and having at heart a certain knowledge that they were indifferent to each other, apologies were made for every little circumstance which they thought betrayed their mutual coldness. This lasted but few months, when they shewed a difference of opinion in every trifle; a«d, as a sign of certain decay of affection, the word "per- 1 "haps" was introduced in all their discourse. "I have

a mind to go to the Park, fays she; but perhaps, my. "Dear, you will want the coach on some other occa"sion. He would very willingly carry her to the Play f u but perhaps she had rather go to Lady Centaur's and "play at Ombre." They were both persons of good discerning, and soon found that they mortally hated each other, by their manner of hiding iu. Certain it is, that there are some Genio's which are not capable of pure affection, and a man is born with talents for it as much as- for poetry or any other science.

Osmyn began too late to find the imperfection os his own heart; and used all the methods in the world to. correct it, and argue himself into return of desire and passion for his wife, by the contemplation of her excellent qualities,.his great obligations to her, and the high value he saw all the world except himself did put upon it her.

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