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them out of countenance, and looks like a jeft upon their perfons. They grow suspicious on their first looking in a glass, and are ftung with jealousy at the fight of a wrinkle. A handsome. fellow immediately alarms them, and every thing that looks young or gay turns their thoughts upon their wives..
A second fort of men, who are most liable to this paflion, are those of cunning, wary, and diftrustful tempers. It is a fault very justly found in hiftories.compofed by politicians, that they leave nothing to chance or humour, but are still for deriving every action from some plot and contrivance, for drawing up a perpetual scheme of causes and events, and preserving a constant correspondence between the camp and the council-table. And thus it happens in the affairs of love with men of too refined a thought. They put a construction on a look, and find out a design in a smile ; they give new fenses and fignifications to words and actions; and are ever tormenting themselves with fan! cies of their own raising. They generally act in a disguise themfelves, and therefore mistake all outward shows and appearances for hypocrisy in others; so that I believe no men see less of the truth and reality of things, than these great refiners upon incidents, who are fo wonderfully subtle and overwife in their conceptions.
Now what these men fancy they know of women by reflection, your lewd and vicious men believe they have learned by experience. They have seen the poor husband so mifled by tricks and artifices, and in the midst of his inquiries fo lost and bewildered in a crooked intrigue, that they still fufpect an underplot in every female action ; and especiallý where they see any resemblance in the behaviour of two persons, are apt to fancy, it proceeds from the fame design in both. These men therefore bear hard upon the suspected party, pursue her close
through all her turnings and windings, and are too well acquainted with the chace, to be ffung off by any false steps or doubles : Besides, their acquaintance and conversation has lain wholly among the vicious part of womankind, and therefore it is no wonder they censure all alike, and look upon the whole sex as a species of impostors. But if, not. withstanding their private experience, they can get over these prejudices, and entertain a favourable opinion of some
women; yet their own loose defires will stir up new fufpicions from another side, and make them believe all men subject to the same inclinations with themselves.
Whether these other motives are most predomi. nant, we learn from the modern histories of Ame, rica, as well as from our own experience in this part of the world, that jealousy is no northern paffion, but rages most in those nations that lie neareft the influence of the fun. It is a misfortune for. a woman to be born between the tropics ; for there lie the hoteft regions of jealousy, which, as you come northward, cools all along with the climate, until you scarce meet with any thing like it in the polar circle. Our own nation is very températely Situated in this respect; and if we meet with some few disordered with the violence of this paflion, they are not the proper growth of our country, but are many degrees nearer the sun in their con ftitutions than in their climate..
After this frightful account of jealoufy, and the persons who are most subject to it, it will be but fair to fhew by what means the paflion may be best allayed, and those who are poffeffed with it set at ease. Other faults indeed are not under the wife's jurisdiction, and should, if poflible, escape her observation; but jealousy calls upon her particularly for its cure, and deserves all her art and application in the attempt : Besides, she has this for her encou. ragement that herendeavours will be always pleasing,
and that she will still find the affection of her husband rising towards her in proportion as his doubts and fufpicions vanish ; for, as we have seen all along, there is so great a mixture of love in jealousy as is well worth the separating. But this fhall be the subject of another paper.
NO 171. SATURDAY, SEPTEMBER 15.
Credula res amor eft. Ovid. Met. vii. ver. 826.
The man, who loves, is easy of belief, Having in my yesterday's
paper discovered the nature of jealousy, and pointed out the persons who are most subject to it, I must here apply myself to my fair correspondents, who defire to live well with a jealous husband, and to cafe his mind of its unjuft fufpicions.
The first rule I shall propose to be observed is, that you never seem to dislike in another what the jealous man is himself guilty of, or to admire any thing in which he himself does not excel.
A jea. lous man is very quick in his applications, he knows how to find a double edge in an invective, and to draw a satire on himself out of a panegyrick on another. He does not trouble himself to consider the person, but to direct the character; and is fe. cretly pleased or confounded, as he finds more or less of himself in it. The commendation of any thing in another stirs up his jealousy, as it shews you have a value for others besides himself; but the commendation of that, which he himself wants, inflames him more, as it thews that in fome respects you prefer others before him. Jealousy is adıni. rably described in this view by Horace in his Ode to Lydia.
Quam tu, Lydia, Telephi
Cervicem roseam, et cerea Telephi
Fervens difficili bile tumet jecur :
Certå fede manet ; humor et in genas
Od. xiii. lib. I.
And melt my very foul away .
dif like another ; but if you find those faults which are to be found in his own character, you discover not only your dislike of another, but of himself. In fhort, he is so defirous of ingrofling all your love, that he is grieved at the want of any charm, which he believes has power to raise it; and if he finds by your censures on others that he is not so agreeable in your opinion as he might be, he naturally concludes
could love him better if he had other qualifications, and that by consequence your affection does not rise fo high as he thinks it ought. If therefore his temper be grave or sullen, you must not be too much pleased with a jest, or transported with any thing that is gay and diverting. If his beauty
be none of the best, you must be a profeffed admirer of prudence; or any other quality he is, master of, or at least vain enough to think he iş.
In the next place, you must be sure to be free and open in your conversation with him, and to let in light upon your actions, to unravel all your designs, and discover every secret however trilling or indifferent. A jealous husband has a particular aversion to winks and whispers, and if he does not fee to the bottom of every thing, will be sure to go beyond it in his fears and suspicions. He will always expect to be your chief confident, and where he finds himself kept out of a secret, will believe there is more in it than there should be. And here it is of great concern, that you preserve the character of your sincerity uniform and of a piece: For if he once. finds a false gloss put upon any single action, he quickly suspects all the rest; his working imagination immediately takes a false hint, and runs off with it into several remote consequences, until he has proved very ingenious in working out his own misery.
If both these methods fail, the best way will be to let him fee you are much cast down and afflicted for the ill opinion he entertains of you, and the disquietudes he himself suffers for your fake. There are many who take a kind of barbarous pleasure in the jealoufy of those who love them, that insult over an aching heart, and triumph in their charms which are able to excite so much uneasiness. Ardeat ipfa licet, tormentis gaudet amantis.
Juv. Sat. vi. ver. 208. Though equal pains her peace of mind destroy,
A lover's torments give her spiteful joy. But there often carry the humour so far, until their affected coldness and indifference quite kills all the fondness a of lover, and are then sure too