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deviate frona that dignity and propriety of conduct, which, io any situation, will secure the good will of her friends, and prevent the blushes of her husband.
15. A fondness for company and amusement is blamcable only when it is indulged to excess, and permitted to absorb more important concerns. Nor is some degree of flattery al-, ways dangerous or useless. The good opinion of mankind we are all desirous to obtain ; and to know that we po&sess it, often makes us ambitious to deserve it.
16. No passion is given to us in vain; the best ends are sometimes effected by the worst means; and even female vanity, properly inanaged, may prompt to the most meritoricus actions. I should pay Emilia hut a very ill compliment to as., cribe her virtues to her local situation; for no person can claim, as a virtue, what she has been in no danger of losing. ,,
17. But there is no retirement beyond the reach of tempta. tion, and the whole tenor of her conduct proves, that her un. blemished morals and uniform delicacy, proceed from better principles than necessity or accident.
· 18. She is loved and flattered, but she is not vain ; her company is universally coveted, and yet she has no airs of haughtiness and disdaina:
19. Her cheerfulness in onmpany shows that she has a relish for society; her contentment at home, and attention to domestic concerns, are early specimens of her happy disposition; and her decent, unaffected abhorrence of every species of li. centious behavior, evinces, beyond suspicion, that the innos cence of her heart is equal to the charins of her person.
JULIANA, A REAL CHARACTER. ULIANA is one of those rare women whose personal o attractions have no rivals, but the sweetness of her temper and the delicacy of her sentiments. An elegant person, regular features, a.fine complexion, a lively, expressive coun tenance, an easy address, and those blushes of modesty that 86_n the soul of the beholder; these are the native beauties which reider her the object of universal admiration,
2. But when we converse with her, and hear the melting expressions of unaffected sensibility and virtue that How from her tongue, her personal charms receive new lustre, and irre, sistibly engage the affections of her acquaintances.
3. Sensible that the great source of all happiness, is purity
of morals and an easy conscience, Juliana pays constant and sincere attention to the duties of religion. She abhors the infanious, but fashionable vice of deriding the sacred institutions
of religion. abis. 4. She considers a ladly without virtue as a monster on eartli; * and every accomplishment, without morals, as polite deception,
She is neither a hypocrite nor an enthusiast; on the contrary, she mingtes such cheerfulness with the religious duties of life, that even her piety carries with it a chavin which insénsia'.
bly allures the profligate from the arms of vice. is 5. Not only the general tenor of her life, but in particular
her behavior in church, evinces the reality of her religion. She esteems it not only criminal in a high degree, but extremely unpolite, to behave with levity in a plece consecrated to the són lemn purpose of devotion,
6. She cannot believe that any person, who is solicitous to ** treat all mankind with civility, can laugh in the templo of JE: HOVAH, and treat their great benefactor with heedless neglect,
7. In polite life, the manners of Juliana are peculiarly engaging. To her superiors, she shows the utmost deference and respect. To her equals, the most modest complaisance and civility; while every rank experiences her kindness and affability.
8. By this conduct she secures the love and friendship of all degrecs. No person can despise her, for she does nothing that is ridiculous: she cannot be hated, for she does injury to none; and even the malevolent whispers of envy are silenced, by her modest deportinent and generous condescension..
9. Her conversation is lively and sentimental; free from false wit, frivolous minuteness, and aficctation of learning. Although her discourse is always under the direction of prudénce, yet ita appears unstudied; for her good sense always furnishes her with thoughts suited to the subject, and the purity of her mind Fenders any caution in expressing them almost unnecessary.
16. She will not lead the conversation; niuch less can she stun the ears of company with perpetual chat; to interrupt the discourse of others. - But when occasion offers, she acquits
herself with ease and grace; without the airs of pertaess, or - the confusion of bashfulness.
11. But if the conversation happens to turn upon the foibles of either sex, Jüliana discovers her goodness by silence, or by inventing palliatiofisi $he detests every species of slander. 1 12. She is sensible that to publish and aggravate human ere rors, is not the way to correct them; and reformation, rather thån infamy, is the wish and the study of her life. Her own amiable example is the severest of all satires upon the faults and follies of her sex, and goes farther in discountenancing both, than all the censures of malicious detraction.
1.3. Although Juliana possesses every accomplishment that can command esteem and admiration ; yet she has neither va. nity nor ostentation. Her merit is easily discovered without slow and parade.
. 14. She considers that hauglitiness, and contempt of others, always proceed from meanness; that true greatness is ever accessible ; and that self.recommendation and blustering pretensions, are but the glittering decoratiens of empty heads and trifling hearts.
. 15. However strong may be her desire of useful information, or however lively hercuriosity, yet sbe restrains these passions within the bounds of prudence and good breeding. She deenis it impertinent to the highest degree to be prying into the concerns of other people; much more impertinent and criminal does she deem it, to indulge an officious inquisitiveness, for the sake of gratifying private spleen in the propagation of unfavor, able truths.
16. So exceedingly delicate is she in her treatment of hier fellow creatures, that she will not read a paper nor hear a whisher, which a person does not wish to have known, even when she is in no danger of detection. ;
:17. The same delicate attention to the feelings of others regulates her conduct in company. She would not for the price of her reputation, be found laughing or whispering with one in the company. All nods, grimaces, sly looks, and half speeches, the cause of which is not known, are carefully avoided by her, and reprobated as the height of ill breeding, and the grossest insult to the company.
18. Whenever this happens between two persons, the rest of the company have a just right to consider themselves the ob: jets of their ridicule. But it is a maxiin of Juliana, that such conduct is a breach of politeness, which no oddities or mistakes that happen in public company, can excuse or palliate.
19. It is very common for persons who are destitute of certain accomplishments which they admire in other people, to andeavor to imitate them. This is the source of affer hlon, a fault that infallibly exposes a person to ridicule. But the ornaments of the heart, the dress and the manners of Juliana, are equally easy and natural.
20. She need not to assume the appearance of good qualities which she possesses in reality : nature has given too many beauties to her person, to require the studied embellishments of fashion; and such are the ease and gracefulness of her behavior, that any attempt to improve them would lessen the dignity of her manners. • 21. She is equally a stranger to that supercilious importance
which affects to despise the small, but necessary concerns of - life; and that squeamish, false delicacy which is wounded with
every trifle. . -22. She will not neglect a servant in sickness because of the mcanness of his employment; she will not abuse an animal for her own pleasure and amusement ; nor will she go into fits at the distress of a favorite cat.
23. Her gentle soul is never disturbed with discontent, enyy, or resentment; those turbulent passions which so often destroy the peace of society as well as of individuals. The native firmness and serenity of mind forbid the intrụsion of violent emo. tions ; at the same time her heart, susceptible and kind, is the soft residence of every virtuous affection.' : 24. She sustains the unavoidable shocks of adversity, with a calmness that indicates the superiority of her soul; and with the smile of joy or the tear of tenderness, she participates the pleasures or the sorrows of a friend. .
25. But the discretion and generosity of Juliana, are parti. cularly distinguished by the number and sincerity of her attachments. Her friendships are few, but they are all founded on the principles of benevolence and fidelity. Such confidence do her sincerity, her constancy and her faithfulness inspire, that her friends commit to her breast their most private concerns with. out suspicion. 7. 26. It is her favorite maxim, that a necessity of exacting promises of secrecy, is a burlesque upon every pretension to friendship. Such is the character of the young, the amiable Juliana.
27. If it is possible for her to find a man who knows her worth, and has a disposition and virtues to reward it, the union of their hearts must-secure that unmingled felicity in life, which is reserved for genuine love, a passion inspired' by sensibility, and improved by a perpetual intercourse of kind offices.
RULES FOR BEHAV19R. 1. NEVER let your mind be absent in company. Command
% and direct your attention to the present object, and let distant objects be banished from the mind. There is time enough for every thing in the course of the day, if you do but one thing at once; but there is not time enough in the year, if you will do two things at a time. .
2. Never attempt to tell a story with which you are not well acquainted; nor fatigue your hearers with relating little trifling circumstances. Do not interrupt the thread of discourse with a thousand hems, and by repeating often, says he, and said I. Relate the principal points with clearness and precision, and you will be heard with pleasure.
· 3, There is a difference between modesty and bashfulness. Modesty is the characteristic of an amiable mind; bashfulness discovers a degree of meanness. Nothing sinks a young man 'into low company so surely as bashfulness.
4. If he thinks he shall not please, he most surely will not. Vice and ignorance are the only things we ought to be asham. ed of; while we keep clear of them, we may venture any where without fear or concern.
5. Frequent good company-copy their manners-imitate their virtues and accomplishments. :*
6. Be not very free in your remarks, upon characters. There may be in all companies, more wrong heads than right ones-more people who will deservę, than who will bear censure.
7. Never hold any body by the button or the hand, in or. der to be heard through your story ; for if the people are not willing to hear you, you had much better hold your tongue than hold them.
8. Never whisper in company. Conversation is common stock, in which all persons present have a right to claim their share. Always lister when you are spoken to ; and never in terrupt a speaker.
9. Be not forward in leading the conversation--this belongs to the oldest person in company. Display your learning only on particular occasions. Never oppose the opinion of another but with great modesty.
10. On all occasions avoid speaking ofjyourself if it is pos. sible. Nothing that we can say of ourselves will varnish our dcfects, or add iustre to our virtues; but on the contrary, it will osten make the former more visible, and the latter, obscure.