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The duty of a man to provide for the family God is pleased to give him, is according to the law of nature, of all civilized society, and according to the law of Christ. According to the law of nature ; for the Author of our being has given to the husband that robust frame which enables him to discharge those active duties by which the wants of a family are provided for, and has denied this power to the female, in the delicacy of her sex. According to the law of all civilized society; for we know of no place where man is civilized, and this duty is not required of him.

I will not reason with you, sir, on the necessity of being faithful to this woman, in the character of her husband ; suffice it to say, that a thought contrary to purity, in this respect, would wound your own peace ; and the least appearance of evil would destroy the peace both of your partner and yourself ; I will, there. fore, only ask you, in the presence of God, and these his chosen witnesses, will you love this woman as your wife? Will you provide for her according to the rank in life in which the providence of God is pleased to place you, and be faithful to her in the character of her husband, as long as life shall last? I wait your

answer.

(On receiving his assent, then address the bride :)

Madam, The duties which belong to the character of the wife, are, that she shall love her husband; that she shall be obedient unto him; and be faithful to him in the character of his wife, as long as life shall last. You have given evidence of your love to this man, by saying that you

desire to take him to be your lawful husband; the best evidence you can give of the continuance of

your love to him, is in the discharge of the duty of obe dience. This has sometimes excited the smile of the unthinking, but indeed it is of the unthinking only, for how can two walk together unless they be agreed? And when did two ever walk long together and not dif. fer in their judgment in some matter? It is therefore for the happiness of both that it be distinctly and well un. derstood, whose judgment shall direct where they cannot both think alike. And who is it the woman is called on to obey? The man who has pledged himself by the most sacred tie, to hazard all that is dear to him in life, and even life itself, for the welfare of his partner; he will therefore never require this obedience of her, until he has used every power of his mind to show her, that what he so requires of her is as much for her happiness as for his own.

The woman should also bear in memory that it would be most unreasonable that the husband should have no control over the actions of his wife, when in many things the law makes him accountable for her conduct. She should also bear in memory that she is never, under colour of this obedience, to do aught that is contrary to the principles of morality, or the law of the land in which she lives.

I will not reason with you, madam, on the necessity of being faithful to this man in the character of his wife; suffice it to say, that a thought contrary to purity, in this respect, would wound your own peace, and the least appearance of evil would destroy the peace both of your partner and of yourself; I will, therefore, only ask you, in the presence of God, and these his chosen witnesses, will you love this man as your hus. band? be obedient to him in that character, and faith

ful to him in the character of his wife, as long as life shall last? I wait your answer.

(Assent being given, and addressing both, say :)

You have declared your desire of entering into the holy bonds of matrimony; you have heard the duties which belong to the character of husband and of wife ; you have pledged yourselves each to the other, for the discharge of these duties ; (direct the glove to be taken from the right hand of each, and then putting them each into the other, go on saying,) I therefore unite you to. gether, and declare you to be, no longer twain, but one, in the character of husband and of wife, in the name of God, your Creator, your Redeemer, and your Sancti. fier. (The parties keeping their hands joined, go on and say :)

My beloved brother and sister-children of our common parent, I entreat you, by all that is dear to you in life ; by all your desire of domestic happiness ; and by all your dread of domestic discord, that you bear in con. stant memory this one, this holy truth, that you are no longer twain, but one. This is not the dictate of hu. man wisdom; much less is it human sophistry: it is the word of the ever-living and ever-loving God; and just in proportion as you bear this truth in memory, and make it the rule of your conduct toward each other, so will you find the happiness which this institution of God, thus wisely entered into, and its duties thus faithfully discharged, will most assuredly give; and just in proportion as you do not keep this truth 'in memory, nor make it the rule of your conduct, so will you find that your union is upblessed.

My Brother, the woman whose hand you hold, and who is now your wife, is, next to God, your best friend ; love and cherish her as such ; and if ever any third party should whisper in your ear a thought contrary to her honour, however well it may have been intended, consider it as ill judged ; receive it not for a moment, but reject it as the act of an enemy.

My Sister, the man whose hand you hold, and who is now your husband, is, next to God, your best friend ; love and cherish him as such ; and if ever any third party should whisper in your ear a thought contrary to his honour, however well it may have been intended, consider it as ill judged ; receive it not for a moment, but reject it as the act of an enemy.

That you may live in all the happiness which the marriage life is so well calculated to bestow, let us lift our hearts to God, and we trust, that he will hear, and answer, and bless us.

In the sacred name of Jesus, the Lord and Saviour of the world, do we approach thy divine presence, O God our Father, who art in Heaven : We adore thee, that thou hast not only revealed thyselfunto us as the Almighty Maker of heaven and of earth, but that we know thee as the Framer of our bodies, the Father of our spi. rits, and the Sanctifier of our souls : We bless thee that thou hast revealed thyself to us under the strong, endearing, and emphatic name of love; and that this pure and holy spirit of love hath united the hearts of thy servant and handmaid ; and that they are no longer twain, but one. We pray that this holy flame may continue to burn bright and pure as long as life shall last ; that they may be a blessing to each other, and to all

around them. And when thou hast served the purposes of thy grace with them here below, do thou receive them to the enjoyment of thy more immediate presence, where there is joy; where angels and archangels, cherubim and seraphim, with the spirits of our believing departed brethren, surround thy throne in glory, day without night rejoicing ; where love, pure, ceaseless, and unbounded reigns: and unto Thee, the King eternal, immortal, and invisible, the only wise God, be ascribed the kingdom, power, and glory, world without end. Amen.

An omission in the Marriage Ceremony was not per.

ceived till the book was printed. After line 11, in page 69, the following should be introduced ;

According to the law of Christ ; for we there find, that, "if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is woise than an infidel.” He is worse than an infidel; for the infidel, not acknowledging the faith, cannot dishonour it; but the man who calls himself a Christian, and

neglects the discharge of this important duty, brings a re, proach upon the holy name by the which he is called,

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