Why Men Don't Listen and Women Can't Read Maps: How We're Different and What to Do About It

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Harmony/Rodale, Jan 13, 2004 - Family & Relationships - 272 pages
Have you ever wished your partner came with an instruction booklet? This international bestseller is the answer to all the things you've ever wondered about the opposite sex.

For their controversial new book on the differences between the way men and women think and communicate, Barbara and Allan Pease spent three years traveling around the world, collecting the dramatic findings of new research on the brain, investigating evolutionary biology, analyzing psychologists, studying social changes, and annoying the locals.

The result is a sometimes shocking, always illuminating, and frequently hilarious look at where the battle line is drawn between the sexes, why it was drawn, and how to cross it. Read this book and understand--at last!--why men never listen, why women can't read maps, and why learning each other's secrets means you'll never have to say sorry again.


Making Perfect Sense
Its All in the Mind TT
Talking and Listening
Maps Targets and
Thoughts Attitudes Emotions
Our Chemical Cocktail
Boys Will Be Boys But Not Always
Men Women and Sex
Marriage Love and Romance
Toward a Different Future

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Page 3 - Iust about the only thing they have in common is that they belong to the same species. They live in different worlds, with different values and according to quite different sets of rules. Everyone knows this, but very few people, particularly men, are willing to admit it. The truth, however, is most definitely out there.
Page xvii - This book is dedicated to all the men and women who have ever tried and failed, tried and succeeded, or just plain tried to understand the opposite sex.
Page 5 - It shows convincingly that it is our hormones and brain wiring that are largely responsible for our attitudes, preferences, and behavior. This means that if boys and girls grew up on a deserted island with no organized society or parents to guide them, girls would still cuddle, touch, make friends, and play with dolls, while boys would compete mentally and physically with each other and form groups with a clear hierarchy.

About the author (2004)

Barbara Pease is CEO of Pease Training International and the author of the international bestseller Memory Language. She divides her time between England and Australia, trying to find her way home from the airport. Alan Pease is a full-time speaker, conducting seminars in thirty countries with a client list that includes IBM, McDonald's, and the BBC. He is also the author of five #1 bestsellers, and spends most of his free time practicing listening when he's being spoken to.

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