Arousal: The Secret Logic of Sexual FantasiesSexual fantasies. Everyone has them, but no one knows what they mean. People are curious about and often confused by the things that arouse them, yet they are often too ashamed to reveal their most private fantasies to their partners or even their therapists. In this fascinating and provocative book, Dr. Michael J. Bader offers a groundbreaking new theory of sexual desire, one that will liberate men and women and enable them to better understand their sexual preferences. |
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... theory , a theory of the mind and psychotherapy first developed by the psychoanalyst Joseph Weiss and empirically tested by Weiss and Harold Sampson , has been the primary theoretical soil in which my ideas have grown . Hal Sampson , a ...
... theory of sexual arousal that explains both the most theatrical scenarios of bondage and fetishism and the mildest pref- erences about sexual positions in the bedroom . The power of this theory is evident in the very fact that it is ...
... theory . It is sensitive to the concerns of sociologists and feminists , but it is not a social theory . For readers who are currently in psychotherapy , it will open up new avenues of explo- ration . For therapists whose patients talk ...
... theories , however , really explains the root cause of sexual arousal . Those who think it is an accident of the human heart , of course , discredit the search for causes altogether , implying that if we explain sexual excitement , we ...
... theory , influenced by years of exposure to psychoanalytic studies of sexuality . However , psycho- analysis , too ... theories about sexual arousal did not seem to fit what I was seeing in my own clinical work . While psychoanalysis is ...
Contents
HOW SEX WORKS | 17 |
GUILT WORRY AND INHIBITION | 24 |
GUILT RUTHLESSNESS AND SEXUAL EXCITEMENT | 29 |
SHAME HELPLESSNESS AND SEXUAL EXCITEMENT | 36 |
IDENTIFICATION TRANSFERENCE AND SEXUAL EXCITEMENT | 41 |
SOLVING THE PROBLEMS OF IDENTIFICATION AND TRANSFERENCE WITH SEXUAL FANTASIES | 45 |
OVERLAPPING FANTASIES | 47 |
SEXUAL FANTASIES AS ANTIDOTES TO GUILT AND WORRY | 50 |
THE PEEPING TOM | 136 |
PHOTOGRAPHING AND VIDEOTAPING SEX | 137 |
BODY TYPES AND SEXUAL AROUSAL | 139 |
GAY MEN AND SEXUAL AROUSAL IN HETEROSEXUAL WOMEN | 141 |
SEXUAL PLEASURE AND BOREDOM IN RELATIONSHIPS | 142 |
THE NATURAL DECLINE OF SEXUAL INTEREST | 144 |
INTIMACY AND SEXUAL RUTHLESSNESS | 147 |
PATHOGENIC BELIEFS AND SEXUAL COMPATIBILITY | 154 |
THE CASE OF JAN | 51 |
THE CASE OF MANNY | 58 |
THE CASE OF ROBERT | 61 |
THE CASE OF MATT | 64 |
FETISHISM AND SEXUAL AROUSAL | 69 |
THE CASE OF BOB | 73 |
BORN TO LOSE SEXUAL FANTASIES AS ANTIDOTES TO SHAME AND REJECTION | 80 |
THE STORY OF ESTHER | 82 |
IDENTIFICATION AND THE PROBLEMS OF SEXUAL AROUSAL | 90 |
THE CASE OF GLENN | 92 |
OTTO AND HIS FIXATION ON YOUTH | 98 |
THE CASE OF AMANDA | 104 |
SAFETY AND THE SEXUALIZATION OF ABUSE | 112 |
FROM THE CONVENTIONAL TO THE BIZARRE INTERPRETING SEXUAL FANTASIES | 115 |
MASOCHISM AND SEXUAL AROUSAL | 117 |
GOLDEN OR BROWN SHOWERS | 120 |
MEN WEARING WOMENS PANTIES | 121 |
DIAPERED AND TREATED LIKE A BABY | 122 |
ASPHYXIATION FANTASIES | 123 |
DOMINANCE AND SEXUAL AROUSAL | 124 |
RAPE FANTASIES | 126 |
MASTERSLAVE RELATIONSHIPS | 127 |
INCEST FANTASIES | 128 |
MULTIPLE PARTNERS | 132 |
GANG RAPE | 135 |
THE CASE OF MARK AND BETSY | 157 |
THE CASE OF JIM AND LAURA | 163 |
THE CASE OF ROB AND NICOLE | 168 |
THE PROBLEM OF THE GOOD WIFE | 171 |
THE ROLE OF SEXUAL FANTASIES IN PSYCHOTHERAPY | 180 |
SHAME SELFACCEPTANCE AND SEXUAL FANTASIES IN PSYCHOTHERAPY | 183 |
THE ROLE OF PATHOGENIC BELIEFS IN PSYCHOTHERAPY | 189 |
SAFETY TESTING AND CHANGE IN PSYCHOTHERAPY | 197 |
MECHANISMS OF CHANGE IN PSYCHOTHERAPY | 204 |
SEXUAL FANTASIES ARE DIFFICULT TO CHANGE | 210 |
THE SOCIAL MEANING OF SEXUAL FANTASIES | 218 |
BLAMING THE PARENTS AND THE ABUSE EXCUSE | 223 |
GENDER DIFFERENCES IN SEXUAL FANTASY | 233 |
WHAM BAM THANK YOU MAAMTHE PSYCHOLOGY OF OBJECTIFICATION | 240 |
WILL YOU STILL LOVE ME TOMORROW?PATHOGENIC BELIEFS AND THE IDEALIZATION OF ROMANTIC LOVE IN WOMEN | 247 |
THE PERSONAL FINALLY MEETS THE POLITICAL | 255 |
THE FUTURE OF SEX FINAL REFLECTIONS UNANSWERED QUESTIONS | 258 |
AN ADAPTIVE ILLUSION OR DANGEROUS ADDICTION? | 263 |
WILL THERE BE SEXUAL FANTASIES AFTER THE REVOLUTION? | 276 |
THE VALUE OF UNDERSTANDING SEXUAL FANTASIES | 279 |
THE EMPERORS NEW CLOTHES AND THE MEANING OF SEXUAL FANTASY | 283 |
REFERENCES | 287 |
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Arousal: The Secret Logic of Sexual Fantasies Michael Bader,Michael J. Bader No preview available - 2003 |