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Manner In The Street—Upon Meeting a Friend or Acquaintance—Proper Mode of Salutation—"Drawing" Gloves —Stopping to Talk—Tact and Ease— Leaving a Companion in the Street—Manner to Inferiors in the Street—Rule, when meeting a Gentleman-Acquaintance walking with Ladies whom you do not know—When you are acquainted with both Ladies and Gentlemen whom you may meet—Shaking Hands with Ladies in the Street at Meeting or at Parting—Courteous Phrases—Parting Ceremonies—Precedence in the Street—Taking the Arm of another Man—Walking with Ladies—Proper relative Position—Opening Doors, etc.—When meeting Ladies—Upon being stopped by a Lady—Manner to a Stranger Lady—When you wish to Speak with a Lady in the Street—When wishing to join a Lady in her Promenade— Proper Caution in this respect—Rule respecting the Recognition of a Lady— An Awkward Third—Considerations due to Ladies in case of Street-Accidents—Courtesy to Ladies who are alighting from a Carriage—Custom of offering the Arm to Ladies in the Street, when ascending Steps, etc.—On entering Church, etc., with Ladies—As one of a Travelling-Party, etc.—Gait in walking with elderly Persons or Ladies generally—Staring at Ladies in Public Places—Manner to Ladies entering an Opera House, at a PumpRoom, etc.—Audible Comments upon Strangers, 128


The "Cut" Portuguese.—Newspapers and Coffee—West Point and a Discussion—A Foreigner's Revenge, 135

The Broken Fan: a Lady's Lament, 186

The "Iron Duke," and Youthful Reminiscences, 137

Unexpected Rencontre—A Stroll and a Compliment—A Gentleman of the Old
School in the Street—A Tribute—A Daughter's Boast—A Wedding—The
Bridal Tour—The Rail-Car—An Intruder—True Politeness—The Glass of Medical-water—The Denouement, 137

The Letter-box.— An Exciting Exclamation—A Group for a Painter—A
Query —Entreaties—An Explanatory Prelude—The Fruitless Search—The
Appeal—A Dialogue—An Admission—Musical Sounds—A Prosy Inquiry—
The Summing up—The Damper—The Wish of a True Woman—An Insinua-
tion—A Description drawn from Life—A Valuable Portrait—A Tribute to
American Gentlemen—An Illustration—Stage Politeness to a Lady—Acted Poetry: the Poetry of Real Life! 141

The Prisoner Of The Colliseum.'—A Moonlight Walk—A Secret Appeal—The
Fair Epicurean — The Recitation—An Apparition'—The Lasso—A Witty
Reply—The Guerdon—The Clarion-note—A Brilliant —Horseback on the
Caropagnia of Rome—The Pope's Cortege—A Recognition—A Denouement—
A Confession and the Retort Courteous—A Sudden Transformation—The
Beautiful Arm—Powers' Studio—The Artist's Discovery—An Intimation, . 149


MANNER—( Continued.)


Aversion to Ceremonious Morning Visits—Proper Hours—Suitable Brevity—
Character of Conversation—Card of Announcement—Visits made at Hotels
—Precautionary Rules—Mode of entering a Drawing-Room—Drawing-
Room Rules—When Meeting other Visitors—When interrupted—When wish-
ing to leave a Message or make an Appointment, etc.—Proper Courtesy
when Visitors are taking Leave—Short Visits of mere Ceremony—Attendance
upon Ladies making Morning Visits—Attentions Suitable—Introducing—
Ladies to take precedence in rising to go away—Gentlemen calling together
—Dress, etc.,—When awaiting Ladies in a Public Parlor—Standing when
Ladies are Standing—Offering the Arm—Suitable Gait—Minutia of Politeness
—Morning Wedding-Receptions—Whom you should Congratulate—General
Directions—Tact and Good Taste—Leaving Cards—Visits on New-Year's Day
—Ceremonious Intercourse with Superiors—Manner at Church—Mrs. Cha-
pone's Rule—Self-possession one of the Distinctive Characteristics of Good-
Breeding—Whispering, Laughing, Staring, etc., to be avoided—Retaining
the Hat not admissible—Salutations at Church—Attending Ladies at Con-
certs, Lectures, Opera, etc. etc.—Propriety of Retaining the Seat you take on
Entering—Incommoding Others—Courtesy due to Those near you—Manner
of well-bred Persons in a Picture Gallery, etc.,—Reverence due to the
Beautiful and the Good—Partaking of Refreshments in Public Places—Dis-
courtesy of any Semblance of Intrusiveness—Etiquette in Joining a Party
—Politeness not to be laid aside in Business-intercourse—Elaborate cere-
mony unsuitable, at times—The Secret of Popularity—Manner at a Public
Table—Courtesy to Others—Self-importance a Proof of Vulgarity—" Fast"
Feeding—Pardonable Luxuriousnesss—Staring—Listening to Private Con-
versations—Rudeness of Loud Talking and Laughing, Shrugs, Glances, or
Whispers—Courtesy due to a Lady entering a Dining-Room—To Older Per-
sons—Meeting or passing Ladies in Public Houses—Influence of Trifles in
the Formation of Character—Frequent Discourtesy in ignoring the Presence
of Ladies in Public Parlors, etc. etc.—Politeness due to Women, in Practical
Emergencies—Nocturnal Peccadilloes—Travelling—True Rules—Courtesy
to Ladies, to Age, to the Suffering—Indecorum of using Tobacco, etc. etc.,
in Public Conveyances—Ceremony a Shield, but not an Excuse—A Challenge Extraordinary—Anecdote of P , the Poet—Practice and Tact essential to secure Polish of Manner—Life-long Stumbling—Practical Rules, the
result of Annoying Experience—Carriage Hire—Driving with Ladies, etc.,—
Manner in Social Intercourse—As Host—Etiquette of Dinners at Home—
Precedence—Distinguished Guests—A Lady—A Gentleman—Reception and
Introduction of Guests—True Hospitality as Host, better than mere Cere-
mony—Manner towards those unacquainted with Conventional Rules—
Manner at Routs, at Home—Attention to Guests compatible with good ton
—Anecdote—Respect to be rendered to all one's Aquaintances in General
Society—To Married Ladies—To Strangers—The Distinction thus Exhibited between the Under-bred and the genuine Man of the World—No one entitled to Self-Excuses in this Regard 15*


k Prophesy.—Table-Talk—A Rescue and a Lady's Gratitude—Jealousy Disarmed—Backwoodsmen—Cordiality—Costume and Courtesy—Retort Courteous—An Interpolation and a Protest—Mr. Clay's Popularity with the Fair -Secret of his Success in Society—Mr. Clay and the Belle Esprit—A Definition of Politeness—A Comical Illustration—A Pun—A well-turned Compliment—Unconsciousness of Self—A Stranger's Impressions—A Poetic Tribute 179

The Devotee Of The Beautiful.—A Morning Drive—Anticipation—Spiritual Enjoyment—Discord—A Disappointment, • • 184

The Soldier's Wifh And The Ghoul.—A Journey—The truly Brave—The
Arrival—A Chapter of Accidents—Self-Reproach—The Ghoul—The Calm-
ness of Despair—The Versatility of Woman—But a Step from the Sublime to
the Ridiculous—The Ghoul again—A Defiant Spirit—Punctilious Ceremony, 186

A Fair Champion.—A Query and its Solution—A Sketch—Raillery—A Tete-a-
Tete—An Interruption—" Fashionable" Hospitality—Genuine Hospitality—
A Mother's Advice—An indignant Spirit—Rebellion, 193

The Man Of One Idea.—An Object for Worship—A Soiree—A Polite Colloquy—The Host at Ease—A pleasing Hostess—The Climax, . . , 198

Young America—an Anecdote, • • • •200

The Practical Philosopher.—A handsome Aristocrat—An Accusation—
A Courteous Neighbor—Fall of a " Fixed Star "—Favorite Aphorism of Mra.
Combe—The Daughter of the Siddons, 20*



The Toilet, As Connected With Health. Che True Basis of Health—Temperance an inclusive Term—Foundation of the Eminence of J. Q. Adams—His Life a Model for the Young—His early Habits —Vigorous Old Age—Example of Franklin in regard to Temperance— Illustrations afforded by our National History—The Bath-Varying Opi nions and Constitutions—Imprudent use of the Bath—Bishop Heber— General Directions—The Art of Swimming—Sponging—Deficiencies of the Toilet in England—Collateral Benefits arising from habitual Sponge-bathing—The Hair—All Fantastic Dressing of the Hair in bad taste—Use of Pomades—Vulgarity of using Strong Perfumes—The Teeth—Use of Tobacco —Smoke Dispellers—The Nails—The Feet—A complete Wardrobe essential to Health—Early Rising—Its manifold Advantages—Example of Washington, Franklin, etc., in this respect—Daniel Webster's Eulogy upon Morning— Retiring early—Truth of a Medical Dogma—Opposition of Fashion and Health—Early Hours essential to the Student—Importance of the early Acquisition of Correct Habits in this Regard—Illustration—A combination of Right Habits essential to Health—Exercise—Walking—Pure Air—The Lungs of a City—Superiority of Morning Air—An Erect Carriage of the Body in Walking—Periodical Exercise—Necessary Caution—The Unwise Student—A Warning—A Knowledge of Dietetics and Physiology requisite to the Preservation of Health—Suitable Works on these Subjects—Riding and Driving the Accomplishments of a Gentleman—A Horse a desirable Possession— Testimony of Dr. Johnson—The Pride of Skill—Needful Caution—Judicious Selection of Locale for these Modes of Exercise—Dr. Beatie's Tribute to Nature—Importance of Temperance in Eating and Drinking, as regards Health—The Cultivation of Simple Tastes in Eating—Proper Preparation of Food important to Health—Re-action of the Human Constitution—Effect of Bodily Health upon the Mind—The pernicious Use of Condiments, etc., etc. Young Ambition's Ladder.—Hours for Meals—Dining Late—Injurious Effects of Prolonged Abstinence—The Stimulus of Distension—Repletion—Necessity of deliberate and thorough Mastication—Judicious Use of Time in Eating—The Use of Wine, Tobacco, etc.—The truly Free!—Dr. Johnson's Opinion—Novel Argument against the Habits of Smoking and Drinking— Advice of Sir Walter Raleigh to the Young—Then and Now—Council of a "Looker-on" in this Utilitarian Age—Erroneous Impressions—Authority of a celebrated Writer—Social Duties—The unbent Bow—Rational Enjoyment the wisest Obedience to the Natural Laws—A determined Pursuit in Life essential to Happiness and Health—Too entire Devotion to a Single Object of Pursuit, unwise—Arcadian Dreams—Attainable Realities—Truisms —Decay of the Social and Domestic Virtues—Human Sacrifices—Relaxations and Amusements requisite to Health—Superiority of Amusements in the Open Air for Students and Sedentary Persons generally—Benefits of Cheerful Companionship—Objection to Games, etc., that require Mental Exertion—Converse Rule—Fashionable Watering-places ill adapted to Health—Avocations of the Farmer, Tastes as a Naturalist, Travel, Sporting, etc., recommended—Depraved Public Taste—Slavery to Fashion—Habits of Europeans, in this respect, superior to our own—Modern Degeneracy— Folly thralled by Pride, 208


To G-ive Eternity To Time.—The Senate-Chamber and the Dying Statesman
—The Moral Sublime, 225

Jonathan's Sins And A Foreigner's Peccadillo.—Celebrities—Dinner-table
Sallies—Grave Charges—Yankee Rejection of Cold Meats—Self-Preserva tion the First Law of Nature !—A Mystery Solved—National Impartiality—
Anecdote—Storming a Fort—Successful Defence, by a Lady, of herself!—
A Stratagem—The Daughter of a Gun—An Explanation—The Tortures of
Outraged Modesty, 226

Dr. Abernethy and his Yankee Patient, 232

Cosmopolitan Chit-chat.—A Heterogeneous Party—The Golden Horn-
Contemplations in a Turkish Caique—A Discussion—"Christian Dogs" and
the Dogs of Constantinople—An unpleasant Discovery—A Magical Touch—
The Song of the Caidjis—A National Example, 282
Thh Imperturbable Guest.—A Dinner-Table Scene,
The Youth and the Philosopher: Lines by Whitehead,



Importance of this Branch of Education—Its Frequent Neglect—Usual Faults of the Epistolary Style—Applicability of the rule of the Lightning-Tamer— Variety of Styles appropriate to varying Subjects and Occasions—Impossibility of laying down all-inclusive General Rules—Requisites of Letters of Business—Legibility in Caligraphy—Affectation in this respect—Avoidance of Servile Imitation—Advantage of possessing a good Business-hand—Timesaving Importance of Rapidity—Letters of Introduction—Form Suitable for Ordinary Purposes—Specimen of Letters Introducing a Person in Search of a Business Situation, Place of Residence, etc., etc.—Introduction of Artists, Professional Men, etc.—Presenting a Celebrity by Letter—Proper Attention to Titles, Modes of abbreviating Titles, etc., etc.—Letters of Introduction to be unsealed—Manner of Delivering Letters of Introduction—Cards, Envelopes, Written Messages, etc., proper on such Occasions—Appointments and due Courtesy, etc.—Form of Letter to a Lady of Fashion—Etiquette in regard to Addresses—Letters Presenting Foreigners—Personal Introductions—Common Neglect of Etiquette in this respect—Proper Mode of Introducing Young Persons, or those of inferior social position—Of Introducing Men to Women, very Young Ladies, etc.—Voice and Manner on such Occasions— Explanations due to Strangers—Common Social Improprieties—American Peculiarity—Hotel Registers, etc.—Courtesy due to Relations as well as to Strangers—Impropriety of indiscriminate Introductions—Preliminary Ceremonies among Men—In the Street—At Dinners—Evening-Parties—Receptions—Conventional Rules subject to Changes, dictated by good-sense— Supremacy of the Law of Kindness—Visiting Cards—European Fashion of Cards—Style usual in America—Place of Residence—Phrases for Cards— Business Cards: Ornaments,Devices, Color, Size, Legibility,etc.—Letters of Recommendation—Moral Characteristic—Proper Style of Letters of Condolence—Form of Letters of Congratulation—Admissibility of Brevity—Letters to Superiors—Ceremonious Form for such Communications—Proper Mode of Addressing Entire Strangers—Common Error in this respect—Punch's Sarcasm—Diplomats and Public Functionaries should be Models in Letter-writing—An Enigma—Diplomatic Letters—Letters of Friendship and Affection— General Requisites of Epistolary Composition—Letters a Means of conferring and Receiving Pleasure—Distinctive Characteristic of the Epistolary Style— Peccadilloes—Aids facilitating the Practice in this Accomplishment—Notes of Invitation, Acceptance, Regret—Observance of Usage—Simplicity the best ton and taste—Etiquette with regard to Invitations to Dinner—Courtesy in Matters of Social Life—Error of an American Author—Ceremony properly preceding taking an uninvited Friend to a Party—Abstract good-breeding the best Test of Propriety—Proper form of Ceremonious Notes of Invitation—Use of the Third Person in writing Notes—Mailed Letters—Local

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