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MANNER IN DETAIL.
Manner In The Street—Upon Meeting a Friend or Acquaintance—Proper Mode of Salutation—"Drawing" Gloves —Stopping to Talk—Tact and Ease— Leaving a Companion in the Street—Manner to Inferiors in the Street—Rule, when meeting a Gentleman-Acquaintance walking with Ladies whom you do not know—When you are acquainted with both Ladies and Gentlemen whom you may meet—Shaking Hands with Ladies in the Street at Meeting or at Parting—Courteous Phrases—Parting Ceremonies—Precedence in the Street—Taking the Arm of another Man—Walking with Ladies—Proper relative Position—Opening Doors, etc.—When meeting Ladies—Upon being stopped by a Lady—Manner to a Stranger Lady—When you wish to Speak with a Lady in the Street—When wishing to join a Lady in her Promenade— Proper Caution in this respect—Rule respecting the Recognition of a Lady— An Awkward Third—Considerations due to Ladies in case of Street-Accidents—Courtesy to Ladies who are alighting from a Carriage—Custom of offering the Arm to Ladies in the Street, when ascending Steps, etc.—On entering Church, etc., with Ladies—As one of a Travelling-Party, etc.—Gait in walking with elderly Persons or Ladies generally—Staring at Ladies in Public Places—Manner to Ladies entering an Opera House, at a PumpRoom, etc.—Audible Comments upon Strangers, 128
SKETCHES ILLUSTRATIVE OF MANNERS.
The "Cut" Portuguese.—Newspapers and Coffee—West Point and a Discussion—A Foreigner's Revenge, 135
The Broken Fan: a Lady's Lament, 186
The "Iron Duke," and Youthful Reminiscences, 137
Unexpected Rencontre—A Stroll and a Compliment—A Gentleman of the Old
The Letter-box.— An Exciting Exclamation—A Group for a Painter—A
The Prisoner Of The Colliseum.'—A Moonlight Walk—A Secret Appeal—The
BULKS TO BK OBSERVED IN MAKING MORNING VISITS, AND IN SOCIETY GBNKRALI. JT.
Aversion to Ceremonious Morning Visits—Proper Hours—Suitable Brevity—
ANBCDOTES, SKETCHES, ETC.
k Prophesy.—Table-Talk—A Rescue and a Lady's Gratitude—Jealousy Disarmed—Backwoodsmen—Cordiality—Costume and Courtesy—Retort Courteous—An Interpolation and a Protest—Mr. Clay's Popularity with the Fair -Secret of his Success in Society—Mr. Clay and the Belle Esprit—A Definition of Politeness—A Comical Illustration—A Pun—A well-turned Compliment—Unconsciousness of Self—A Stranger's Impressions—A Poetic Tribute 179
The Devotee Of The Beautiful.—A Morning Drive—Anticipation—Spiritual Enjoyment—Discord—A Disappointment, • • 184
The Soldier's Wifh And The Ghoul.—A Journey—The truly Brave—The
A Fair Champion.—A Query and its Solution—A Sketch—Raillery—A Tete-a-
The Man Of One Idea.—An Object for Worship—A Soiree—A Polite Colloquy—The Host at Ease—A pleasing Hostess—The Climax, . . , 198
Young America—an Anecdote, • • • •200
The Practical Philosopher.—A handsome Aristocrat—An Accusation—
The Toilet, As Connected With Health. Che True Basis of Health—Temperance an inclusive Term—Foundation of the Eminence of J. Q. Adams—His Life a Model for the Young—His early Habits —Vigorous Old Age—Example of Franklin in regard to Temperance— Illustrations afforded by our National History—The Bath-Varying Opi nions and Constitutions—Imprudent use of the Bath—Bishop Heber— General Directions—The Art of Swimming—Sponging—Deficiencies of the Toilet in England—Collateral Benefits arising from habitual Sponge-bathing—The Hair—All Fantastic Dressing of the Hair in bad taste—Use of Pomades—Vulgarity of using Strong Perfumes—The Teeth—Use of Tobacco —Smoke Dispellers—The Nails—The Feet—A complete Wardrobe essential to Health—Early Rising—Its manifold Advantages—Example of Washington, Franklin, etc., in this respect—Daniel Webster's Eulogy upon Morning— Retiring early—Truth of a Medical Dogma—Opposition of Fashion and Health—Early Hours essential to the Student—Importance of the early Acquisition of Correct Habits in this Regard—Illustration—A combination of Right Habits essential to Health—Exercise—Walking—Pure Air—The Lungs of a City—Superiority of Morning Air—An Erect Carriage of the Body in Walking—Periodical Exercise—Necessary Caution—The Unwise Student—A Warning—A Knowledge of Dietetics and Physiology requisite to the Preservation of Health—Suitable Works on these Subjects—Riding and Driving the Accomplishments of a Gentleman—A Horse a desirable Possession— Testimony of Dr. Johnson—The Pride of Skill—Needful Caution—Judicious Selection of Locale for these Modes of Exercise—Dr. Beatie's Tribute to Nature—Importance of Temperance in Eating and Drinking, as regards Health—The Cultivation of Simple Tastes in Eating—Proper Preparation of Food important to Health—Re-action of the Human Constitution—Effect of Bodily Health upon the Mind—The pernicious Use of Condiments, etc., etc. Young Ambition's Ladder.—Hours for Meals—Dining Late—Injurious Effects of Prolonged Abstinence—The Stimulus of Distension—Repletion—Necessity of deliberate and thorough Mastication—Judicious Use of Time in Eating—The Use of Wine, Tobacco, etc.—The truly Free!—Dr. Johnson's Opinion—Novel Argument against the Habits of Smoking and Drinking— Advice of Sir Walter Raleigh to the Young—Then and Now—Council of a "Looker-on" in this Utilitarian Age—Erroneous Impressions—Authority of a celebrated Writer—Social Duties—The unbent Bow—Rational Enjoyment the wisest Obedience to the Natural Laws—A determined Pursuit in Life essential to Happiness and Health—Too entire Devotion to a Single Object of Pursuit, unwise—Arcadian Dreams—Attainable Realities—Truisms —Decay of the Social and Domestic Virtues—Human Sacrifices—Relaxations and Amusements requisite to Health—Superiority of Amusements in the Open Air for Students and Sedentary Persons generally—Benefits of Cheerful Companionship—Objection to Games, etc., that require Mental Exertion—Converse Rule—Fashionable Watering-places ill adapted to Health—Avocations of the Farmer, Tastes as a Naturalist, Travel, Sporting, etc., recommended—Depraved Public Taste—Slavery to Fashion—Habits of Europeans, in this respect, superior to our own—Modern Degeneracy— Folly thralled by Pride, 208
ILLUSTRATIVE SKETCHES AND ANECDOTES.
To G-ive Eternity To Time.—The Senate-Chamber and the Dying Statesman
Jonathan's Sins And A Foreigner's Peccadillo.—Celebrities—Dinner-table
Dr. Abernethy and his Yankee Patient, 232
Cosmopolitan Chit-chat.—A Heterogeneous Party—The Golden Horn-
Importance of this Branch of Education—Its Frequent Neglect—Usual Faults of the Epistolary Style—Applicability of the rule of the Lightning-Tamer— Variety of Styles appropriate to varying Subjects and Occasions—Impossibility of laying down all-inclusive General Rules—Requisites of Letters of Business—Legibility in Caligraphy—Affectation in this respect—Avoidance of Servile Imitation—Advantage of possessing a good Business-hand—Timesaving Importance of Rapidity—Letters of Introduction—Form Suitable for Ordinary Purposes—Specimen of Letters Introducing a Person in Search of a Business Situation, Place of Residence, etc., etc.—Introduction of Artists, Professional Men, etc.—Presenting a Celebrity by Letter—Proper Attention to Titles, Modes of abbreviating Titles, etc., etc.—Letters of Introduction to be unsealed—Manner of Delivering Letters of Introduction—Cards, Envelopes, Written Messages, etc., proper on such Occasions—Appointments and due Courtesy, etc.—Form of Letter to a Lady of Fashion—Etiquette in regard to Addresses—Letters Presenting Foreigners—Personal Introductions—Common Neglect of Etiquette in this respect—Proper Mode of Introducing Young Persons, or those of inferior social position—Of Introducing Men to Women, very Young Ladies, etc.—Voice and Manner on such Occasions— Explanations due to Strangers—Common Social Improprieties—American Peculiarity—Hotel Registers, etc.—Courtesy due to Relations as well as to Strangers—Impropriety of indiscriminate Introductions—Preliminary Ceremonies among Men—In the Street—At Dinners—Evening-Parties—Receptions—Conventional Rules subject to Changes, dictated by good-sense— Supremacy of the Law of Kindness—Visiting Cards—European Fashion of Cards—Style usual in America—Place of Residence—Phrases for Cards— Business Cards: Ornaments,Devices, Color, Size, Legibility,etc.—Letters of Recommendation—Moral Characteristic—Proper Style of Letters of Condolence—Form of Letters of Congratulation—Admissibility of Brevity—Letters to Superiors—Ceremonious Form for such Communications—Proper Mode of Addressing Entire Strangers—Common Error in this respect—Punch's Sarcasm—Diplomats and Public Functionaries should be Models in Letter-writing—An Enigma—Diplomatic Letters—Letters of Friendship and Affection— General Requisites of Epistolary Composition—Letters a Means of conferring and Receiving Pleasure—Distinctive Characteristic of the Epistolary Style— Peccadilloes—Aids facilitating the Practice in this Accomplishment—Notes of Invitation, Acceptance, Regret—Observance of Usage—Simplicity the best ton and taste—Etiquette with regard to Invitations to Dinner—Courtesy in Matters of Social Life—Error of an American Author—Ceremony properly preceding taking an uninvited Friend to a Party—Abstract good-breeding the best Test of Propriety—Proper form of Ceremonious Notes of Invitation—Use of the Third Person in writing Notes—Mailed Letters—Local