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of very late years, I should have no one great satisfaç• tion left; but if I live to the 10th of March, 1714,• and all my securities are good, I shall be worth fifty thousand pound,
(I am, Sir,
you will insert in your very next paper, the following letter to my mistress. You must know, I
am not a person apt to despair, but she has got an odd • humour of stopping short unaccountably, and, as she • herself told a confident of her's, she has cold fits. These • fits shall last her a month or six weeks together; and
as she falls into them without provocation, so it is to • be hoped she will return from them without the merit of
new services. But life and love will not admit of such • intervals, therefore pray let her: be admonished as fola « lows.
• Madam, :I Love you, and I honour you; therefore pray do not":
tell me of waiting till decencies, 'till forms, 'till • humours are consulted and gratified. If you have that. • happy constitution as to be indolent for ten weeks to• gether, you should consider that all that while I burn: • with impatiences and fevers ; but still you say it will be
time enough, though I and you too grow older while we
are yet talking. Which do you think the more rea• fonable, that you should alter a state of indifference for: • happiness, and that to oblige me, or I live in torment, « and that to lay no manner of. obligation upon you 6 While I indulge your insensibility I am doing nothing; • if you favour my paflion, you are bestowing bright de' fires, gay hopes, generous cares, noble. resolutions, and transporting raptures upon,
6. Your most devoted humble servant."
« Mr. Spectator, HERE is a gentlewoman lodges in the same house
with me, that I never did any injury to in my whole life; and she is always railing at me to those • she knows will tell me of it. Do not you think that • she is in love with me? Op would you have me break • my mind yet or not?
• Your servant,
• T. B.'
• Mr. Spectator; I Am a footman. in. a great family, and am in love
with the house-maid. We were all at hot.cockles. • last night in the hall these holidays; when I lay down " and was blinded, she pulled off her shoe, and hit me • with the heel such a rap, as almost-broke my head to
pieces. Pray, Sir, was this love or spite?' T
Saturday, December 29.
Γάμο γαρ ανθρώποισιν ευκλαίον κακόν. .
Frag. vet Poets Wedlock’s an ill men eagerly embrace.
Y father, whom I mentioned in my first specu
honour and gratitude, has very frequently talked to me upon the subject of marriage. I was in my younger years engaged, partly by his advice, and partly by my own inclinations, in the courtship of a person who had a great deal of beauty, and did not at my first approaches seem to have any averfion to me; but as my natural taciturnity hindered me from thewing myself to the best advantage, she by degrees began to look upon me as a very filly fellow, and being resolved to regard merit more than any thing else in the persons who made their applications to her, she married a captain
of dragoons who happened to be beating up for recruits in those
parts. This unlucky accident has given me an aversion to pretty fellows ever since, and discouraged me from trying my fortune with the fair sex. The observations which I made in this conjun&ture, and the repeated advices which I received at that time from the good old man above-mentioned, have produced the following essay upon Love and Marriage.
The pleasanteit part of a man's life is generally that which pafies in courtship, provided his paffion be fincere, and the party beloved kind with discretion. Love, deäre, hope, all the pleasing motions of the soul rise in the pursuit.
It is easier for an artful man who is not in love, to persuade his mistress he has a passion for her, and to succeed in his pursuits, than for one who loves with the greatest violence. True love has ten thousand griefs, impatiences and resentments, that render a man unamia. ble in the eyes of the person whose affection he solicits ; besides, that it finks his figure, gives him fears, apprehensions and poornets of lpirit, and often makes him appear ridiculous where he has a mind to recommend himself.
Those marriages generally abound most with love and conftancy, that are preceded by a long courtship. The passion ihould strike root, and gather strength before marriage be grafted on it. A long course of hopes and expectations fixes the idea in our minds, and habituates us to a fondness of the person beloved.
There is nothing of so great importance to us, as the good qualities of one to whom we join ourselves for life; they do not only make our present state agreeable, but often determine our happiness to all eternity. Where the choice is left to friends, the chief point under confideration is an estate : where the parties choose for themselves, their thoughts turn most upon the per: son. They have both their reasons. The first would procure many conveniencies and pleasures of life to the party whose interests they espouse; and at the same time may hope that the wealth of their friend will turn to their own credit and advantage. The others are pre
paring for themselves a perpetual feast. A good person does not only raise, but continue love, and breeds a fecret pleasure and complacency in the beholder, when the first heats of desire are extinguished. It puts the wife or husband in countenance both among friends and strangers, and generally fills the family with a healthy and beautiful race of children.
I Mould prefer a woman that is agreeable in my own eye, and not deformed in that of the world, to a celebrated beauty. If you marry one remarkably beautiful, you must have a violent passion for her, or you have not the
proper taste of her charms; and if you have such a passion for her, it is odds but it would be imbittered with fears and jealousies.
Good-nature and evenness of temper will give you an easy companion for life; virtue and good fense, an agreeable friend ; love and constancy, a good wife or husband. Where we meet one person with all these accomplishments, we find an hundred without any one of them. The world, notwithstanding, is more intent on trains and equipages, and all the showy parts of life; we love rather to dazzle the multitude, than consult our proper interests; and, as I have elsewhere observed, it is one of the most unaccountable passions of human nature, that we are at greater pains to appear easy and happy to others, than really to make ourselves so. Of all disparities, that in humour makes the most unhappy marriages, yet scarce enters into our thoughts at the contracting of them. Several that are in this respect unequally yoked, and uneasy for life, with a person of a particular character, might have been pleased and happy with a person of a contrary one, notwithitanding they are both perhaps equally virtuous and laudable in their kind.
Before marriage we cannot be too inquisitive and discerning in the faults of the person beloved, nor after it too dim-fighted and fuperficial. However perfect and accomplished the person appears to you at a distance, you will find many blemishes and imperfections in her humour, upon a more intimate acquaintance, which you never discovered, or perhaps suspected. Here therefore discretion and good-nature are to shew their Itrength; the first will hinder your thoughts from
dwelling on what is disagreeable, the other will raise in you all the tenderness of compassion and humanity, and by degrees soften those very imperfections into beauties.
Marriage enlarges the scene of our happiness and miseries. A marriage of love is pleasant; a marriage of interest easy; and a marriage, where both meet, happy. A happy marriage has in it all the pleasures of friendship, all the enjoyments of sense and reason, and indeed, all the 'sweets of life. Nothing is a greater inark of a degenerate and vicious age, than the common ridicule which passes on this state of life. It is; indeed, only happy in those who can look down with scorn or neglect on the impieties of the times, and tread the paths of life together in a constant uniform course of virtue.
Monday, December 31.
Nulla venerato littera mifta joco el.
Ovid. Trift. 1. 2. v. 566. Satirical reflexions I avoid.
I Think myself highly obliged to the public for their morning, and has in it none of those seasonings that recommend so many of the writings which are in vogue among us.
As, on the onė fide, my paper has not in it a single word of news, a reflexion in politics, nor a stroke of party; so on the other, there are no fashionable touches of infidelity, no obscene ideas, no satires upon priesthood, marriage, and the like popular topics of ridicule; no private scandal, nor any thing that may tend to the defamation of particular persons, families, or societies.
There is not one of thase above-mentioned subjects that would not sell a very indifferent paper, could I think of gratifying the public by such mean and balė